Are you a dream-weaver, or a dream-stealer?
Why is that?
Imagine what our world would be like if we all went about achieving what we were truly capable of. Seriously… take and minute and think of all the unlocked potential in the world (or at least in your immediate circle).
I’m sure you have had at some point, some goals you wanted to achieve. I’d also hazard a guess that many of these are unfulfilled.
If we really want to achieve something, then why don’t we just get on with it?
I believe it is because we’re afraid of how others will react.
After all, what do most of us do to people who succeed? We cut them down!
What could they possibly be doing that’s legal, to be earning that much money?
Who wants to be that obsessed with exercise and eating for the rest of their lives?
Who do they think they are, boasting about their new house?
They must have stood on a lot of people’s toes to get that promotion.
So we are left feeling scared of being different to the pack. After all, we don’t want people to talk about us like that, do we?
What if things were different? What if we surrounded ourselves with people who cheered us on instead of stole our dreams
Even better — what if we supported others in their dreams and goals, instead of pulling them down?
Something I have learnt over the past few months is the value of building people up. It has a surprising knock-on effect.
Since January this year, I have been part of an online group who all share similar goals — we want to be fitter, stronger, faster and healthier. Some of us just want to lose excess weight and to build muscle; others are chasing their goal of competing on stage. There is one inspirational woman, who at 57 years of age, has set her goal at competing and winning a medal at a Masters Powerlifting competition!
We are all at different stages of our journey and all have different hurdles to overcome. However, the amazing thing is, we celebrate each other’s successes. We encourage each other when the task seems too difficult, and we ask for (and give) advice when needed. I am continually amazed at the genuine enthusiasm, encouragement, care (and dare I say it), love that exudes from this group.
The most amazing part about it, is that most of us have never even met each other!
What this group has shown me is that by building others up, we actually build ourselves up. For every person who you look up to as an inspiration, there will be someone looking up to YOU for inspiration.
Imagine that! Someone finding YOU inspirational.
Just because you haven’t reached your goal yet, doesn’t mean you can’t inspire others.
The mere act of persistence, patience and hard-work, day after day, can inspire others.
The act of setting goals and doing what is required, even when you don’t feel like it can inspire others.
Having the courage to go after something, when the odds are against you, can inspire others.
Most importantly, being full of encouragement, praise and genuine happiness for someone achieving their goals can be inspiring. Unfortunately, many of us don’t realise this.
Not all achievements come easy. Some take years and years of hard-work, commitment and dedication. Certainly, amongst our online group there has been a lot of blood, sweat and tears (literally)!
I can personally testify that changing my body composition (e.g. the amount of fat and muscle I have), changing my eating habits, and training regularly involves hard work and sacrifice. There have been times when I have doubted myself, doubted the process and wondered if it is all worth it. Some days, it just seemed all too hard.
However, by being a dream-weaver myself — encouraging others, celebrating their successes, using their achievements as motivation for my journey — rather than being jealous of them, has helped me achieve success in a way that I never thought possible. It has helped me stay focussed on my goals. It has also helped me not to worry so much about what others may think.
Most importantly, it has led to other people supporting me in my dreams and goals. People who understand what I am trying to achieve, and the hard work required to get there. And that is where the power is.
As a group, we support each other, laugh with each other, encourage and praise each other. As a group, we achieve so much more than we would individually. As a group, we are powerful. And as a group, we are realising our unlocked potential.
While I still have a long list of goals I want to achieve, I am slowly ticking them off.
The lesson learned is this: you won’t find people to support your dreams, if you are busy stealing the dreams of others.
Supporting and encouraging others in their dreams, whatever they may be, opens your mind to more possibilities, more opportunities and more creative ways to make your dreams come true. It also opens your heart a little, so others can be there for you.
So what are you?
A dream-weaver, or a dream-stealer?