Why dreams don’t belong on the shelf
If you do, then nothing should stand in your way right?
You see, I have goals and dreams. Things I am working towards. I even have a plan.
But this week, I have discovered there was a BIG obstacle in front of me. One I never saw coming. One I didn’t even expect.
All of a sudden, it all seemed too hard.
My goals seemed unattainable.
The work involved loomed in front of me, too huge to overcome.
My belief that I could do it had disappeared.
Small things, which previously were inconveniences, suddenly seemed insurmountable.
My attitude was one of doubt, fear and negativity.
I was dragging my feet, feeling tired and beaten.
So what had happened to cause such a turnaround? After all, I was feeling on top of the world come New Year. And I had experienced great success last year as I worked towards my goals. What had changed?
The truth was, I had stopped protecting my dreams.
I had let ‘life’ get in the way of doing what I needed to do, to make my dreams a reality.
I had let the busyness of the end of the year stop me from focusing on my goals on a daily basis.
I had let ‘holiday’ mode make me complacent.
I had stopped visualising myself achieving my goals.
I had let a lack of routine dampen my enthusiasm.
All in all, I was what happened.
You see, if you have a dream, you need to protect it. You need to protect it from people who want to steal it, or sabotage you or ridicule you, or doubt you.
But most importantly, you need to protect it from your own complacency.
When we dream a dream, or set a goal, we need to look after it. In some ways, it’s a lot like a new-born baby. It needs to be looked after, fed, nurtured, protected, allowed to grow. In the beginning, doing these things is a pleasure, part of the excitement.
But over time, it is easy to become less vigilant.
When our children grow and become more independent, it’s easy to think that they don’t need as much protection as they did in the beginning. This is true, to some extent. However, they still need nurturing on a daily basis. They still need protecting from certain things and they still need to be encouraged to grow.
The same goes for our dreams.
Just because you have set a goal doesn’t mean you can ignore it and still hope to achieve it. Even if you start working towards it, you cannot afford to be complacent about it.
Dreams are precious things. They should be cherished, nourished and looked after. Not placed on a shelf, allowed to gather dust.
For when they are on the shelf, they are open to all kinds of negativity, doubt and fear.
If we don’t give our dream the protection or attention that it needs, it begins to wither and die, until all we have left are remnants of something we wanted to achieve, once upon a time. Distant memories of something we started but never finished. Discarded dreams left upon the shelf, covered in dust.
This week, I almost gave up on myself and my goals — almost.
I was lucky in that I realised what had happened to cause me to feel this way. And instead of shutting the door on my dreams, I have shut the door on the doubt.
I’ve taken my set of goals down off the shelf, dusted them off, and put them in a prominent position where I will see them each day. I will read them, I will visualise them happening, and I will continue to work towards them.
What about you?
Do you have any goals you need to take off the shelf?
Nerissa Bentley is a Melbourne-based freelance writer at Write to the Point Communications. This blog is just one of the things she writes in her spare time.
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