If you could do (or have) anything at all, what would it be?
Perhaps you want a new job, a promotion or even a change in your career.
Maybe you really want to travel — see the world and meet new people.
You may even wish to do something daring — like bungee jumping, parachuting or leaving the house without making the bed!
Maybe you are thinking about starting a family, buying a house, selling a house, buying a bigger house?
Perhaps you want to leave a bad relationship or start a new relationship, or deal with something from your past.
Do you have a dream or goal? Or maybe an idea forming in your mind of what your ideal life would be like?
If you do, and you’re not going after it, then what’s stopping you?
The biggest thing that holds people back is FEAR.
What is FEAR?
Fear is a very real feeling. Actually, it is our body’s way of protecting us in the face of life-threatening situations. Fear is a response to a perceived threat — whether it be physical or emotional.
The key word in both the above paragraphs is the word ‘perceived’. Perceived doesn’t mean ‘actual’. It means that you have interpreted something as threatening to you.
The trouble is most of us are afraid of things that are not really threats at all. More often than not, the situations that we imagine are more frightening than reality. The situations we imagine are also not likely to happen.
We may be frightened of what people think, of being ‘left out’ or ‘not fitting in’. We might be afraid that we will lose friends.
We may fear losing our money.
We may fear failure and the feeling of disappointment.
Perhaps we are scared about being out of our comfort zone, of feeling uncomfortable in new situations.
Maybe (in the case of bungee jumping), we are fearful of losing our life.
We may worry that the price we need to pay to have what we want will be too great.
We may even fear that when reach our goals, it may still not be enough — we may still feel unsatisfied, unhappy and discontent.
But what we are afraid of is not really the negative outcome — we’re afraid that we won’t be able to deal with it. We don’t trust ourselves enough to say “well, whatever happens, I can handle it’.
Fear is a real feeling, but it’s often based on false evidence.
FEAR can be described as False Evidence Appearing Real
It can also stand for Face Everything And Rise.
This week, I was encouraged to give myself a chance. To forget about everything that wasn’t happening, or that may not happen, and instead, focus on steps I need to take, regardless of any outcome.
While we are consumed with fear and worry, we cannot possibly be doing all we can to maximise our chances of success. After all, a head full of fears, has no space to dream.
We have two choices. One, we can either Forget Everything And Run
two, we can Face Everything And Rise.
When was the last time you gave yourself a chance?
Really gave yourself a chance?
Nerissa Bentley is a Melbourne-based freelance writer at Write to the Point Communications. This blog is just one of the things she writes in her spare time.
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