How do you speak to your kids?
How do you speak to yourself?
I bet you are a lot kinder to your boss and your kids than you are to yourself.
When you talk to your boss, what kinds of words do you use? What kind of image do you want to project? Is it an image of efficiency, following the rules, doing a good job, showing your initiative, proving yourself? What kinds of words do you use when you speak? Most probably positive, affirming ones.
What about your kids (or friends, if you don’t have kids). How do you speak to them? If you’re like most parents, you probably use words that encourage, praise and build them up. You use words to help them become confident and resilient. You use words to reassure them, and to teach them valuable life lessons. When you need to, you can be firm, but you do it with love.
Now what about you. How do you talk to yourself?
Do you use positive, affirming words or words to praise, encourage and build yourself up? Do you speak to yourself with love?
I’m willing to bet if we could listen to most people’s internal dialogue, it wouldn’t be very pleasant. It would probably be full of self-loathing, put-downs, limiting beliefs and chastisement.
Do the following phrases sound familiar?
“I’m so stupid”
“I’m so ugly”
“I’m so fat”
“I can’t get anything right”
“I’m not good enough to do that”
It is said that the average person has anywhere between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts every day. When the majority of those thoughts focus on putting yourself down or talking negatively to yourself, what do you think will manifest in your life?
Children who are constantly told that they are useless, a waste of space, no good, dumb, won’t amount to anything, often do go on to be these things, because that’s all they have ever been told and that’s what they come to believe as the truth.
Would you ever speak to your children like that? Then why do you talk to yourself like that?
When you believe you can’t do things or you are not worthy, then your thoughts become your actions. You don’t do things and you act like you are not worthy. People (especially your children) see someone who doesn’t believe in themselves, who isn’t achieving to their full potential, who has given up on their dreams, who has given up on life. They see someone who is miserable, and bitter and negative.
Words are powerful things.
For example: “I can’t” can easily become “I can”.
“I am not….” can easily become “I am…..”
See the difference?
Words are powerful things. They have the power to build up or to tear down. They have the power to make you smile, or make you cry. They can be the difference between doing and not doing. They can be the difference between failure and success.
If your life isn’t where you want it to be, maybe you need to change some of the words in your vocabulary.
It may just make all the difference.
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