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The path to success: a leap of faith and a whole lot of trust

leap of faithTrust is something I have been thinking about a lot of late. When you really think about it, all of us exercise varying levels of trust every day. We trust that our train will get us to work without incident.  We trust that the school will take good care of our kids.

Without trust, we would probably spend most of our days incapacitated with worry.

Obviously, there are varying degrees of trust. Yet the ability to trust seems to be related to the consequences of the trust being broken, or the likelihood of something going wrong.

For example, if you trust that a chair will hold your weight, and it doesn’t, then the repercussions are likely to be fairly minor — maybe some bumps and bruises and a bruised ego to boot. So it’s a risk worth taking.

However, one thing that I have realised, is that it can be a lot harder to trust ourselves than to trust other people. Yet in order to begin to trust ourselves, we sometimes need someone to believe in us first.

About seven weeks ago, I completed a 12-week body transformation. It was a fantastic 12-weeks (overall). There were times when I wanted to throw in the towel and just blob on the couch and eat ice-cream. There were times when I really didn’t want to get up at 4.50am to get to the gym for my workout. There were even times when I wanted to quit because I couldn’t see any changes happening, no matter how hard I was working out and how spot on my nutrition was.

So in order to keep going, I began to trust more. I stopped thinking and analysing and began to trust the process. I trusted the advice my trainer Mel, was giving me, especially when it came to nutrition. I trusted my body would respond if I kept following the plan. And during my training sessions, I trusted my partner to ‘spot me’, especially when I was lifting weights where I knew the likelihood of getting out all my reps was low. Trust was becoming more important the further we got into the challenge.

The most important person I had to trust in, was myself.

Trusting in ourselves is sometimes easier said than done. Too often we doubt our abilities and our intuition, only to find that if we trusted in ourselves in the first place, we would have been a lot better off. Often this inability to trust ourselves can render us paralysed with fear, rooted to the spot, afraid to take the next step.

I clearly remember a training session towards the end of the challenge. Six of us were in various stages trying to master three sets of 12 push-ups on our toes. When Mel found out that I could already do a full three sets she told me to get a weight and put it on my back.

“What! A weight?,” I thought. “How much?,” I asked, expecting her to say 1-2kg.

“5 kilos,” she said.

“5 kilos? That’s heavy!” I said in shock.

“There are heavier ones,” she countered.

So off I went to get the 5kg weight plate, pretty sure that I wouldn’t be able to do one push-up with that extra weight on my back. After all, push-ups on my toes had taken a while to achieve. Besides, push-ups were always the last thing in our training sessions, and I had already increased my weights for every exercise. I didn’t trust my body’s ability to push much further than I had.

“Even if you only get out three or four,” said Mel. “Just try it!”

So the weight went on my back. And I began to push them out. 1-2-3-4-5-

“Keep going,” said Mel.

6-7

“Keep going”

8-9-10

“keep going”

11-…

And then I collapsed, ecstatic but shocked that I had done so many.

I then went on to do another two sets of 12 push-ups with that 5kg plate on my back.

My trust in myself (and my body) was restored because Mel, whom I trusted when it came to exercise and training, believed that I could do it. She felt it was safe for me to attempt it. She also gave me permission to ‘fail’ at getting the full set out, yet encouraged me to keep going in my attempt to get my push-ups out.

Somewhere along the line, we all need people like that. Someone who can see the potential in us that we often fail to see. Someone to help us believe in ourselves when we find it difficult. Someone to encourage us to ‘have a go’. Someone to be there beside us to support us and cheer us. Someone whom we can rely upon to help us out if things go wrong. Someone to say ‘it’s okay if you fail’. Someone you can trust.

success isn't linearThe road to success is never smooth sailing. It’s a bit like a dance where you take some steps forward and some steps back. Sometimes your steps take you back to the start and sometimes they go way off course. At times your steps may be stumbles and may cause you to fall. And depending upon the dance, you may need to take a giant leap of faith.

However, if you have someone beside you guiding your steps, picking you up when you fall, believing in you and giving you the confidence to take that leap of faith, then your chances of success are that much higher.

The question you need to ask is: “Do I have someone like that in my life?”

If you don’t have someone like that…

I don’t wish this blog to sound like an ad, but if you don’t have someone in your life to help you reach your goals (particularly if they are related to health, fitness and wellness), then I really encourage you to contact Mel Cook.

Not only is she a Lifestyle Transformation Specialist and Director at Run With Life, but she is a friendly, positive and happy person who brings out the best in people. It doesn’t matter if you are young or not-so-young, or whether you are fit or not-so-fit. If you want to become a happier, healthier version of yourself, then take that leap of faith and give her a call.

You can also find out more information about our next 12-week Transformation Challenge.

 

cropped-twitterpic.jpgNerissa Bentley is a Melbourne-based freelance writer at Write to the Point Communications. This blog is just one of the things she writes in her spare time.

 She also specialises in writing for the health and well-being market. As well as writing thoroughly researched articles, she can provide assistance with press releases, copywriting, editing, proofreading and communication strategies.

So if you would like her to help you, contact her at writetothepoint@hotmail.com

 

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Want to change your life? First you need a support team

surround yourself with peopleAs some of you may know, I am currently participating in a 12-week Transformation Challenge.

What most people think of when they hear the words ‘Transformation Challenge’ is that if you really focus, you can have an amazing body at the end of it.

Well, that’s what we are led to believe with shows such as The Biggest Loser gracing our screens.

While some people do have amazing physical transformations, the biggest transformation you can achieve is that of your mind.

Improving your confidence, learning how to set goals, learning how to step out of your comfort zone and do things you have never done (or didn’t think you could do), is all part of changing your mindset. Part of the mental transformation may involve turning your negative thoughts into positive ones. Sometimes it’s about learning to change unhealthy habits into healthy ones.

I have done a couple of Transformation Challenges and while there have been transformations in my body, they haven’t been as amazing as those that have happened in my mind. I have learnt to be more positive, to set goals (in all areas of my life), and have grown in my confidence and belief that I can achieve my goals — even though some of them will take some time.

One of the most important things you need when undertaking a Transformation Challenge (or when you set out to change any part of your life), is a great support network.

One of the key people who has been supporting me in my quest for a happier, healthier life for over 12 months now, is Mel Cook, founder and owner of Run With Life. She offers personal training, nutrition advice, running coaching and is one of only 30 trainers world-wide who is a Level 4 trainer in Metabolic Precision (MP) — a science-based approach to achieving permanent body transformation.

You could say, that Mel is very knowledgeable when it comes to the world of health and fitness.

One of the most amazing things about Mel is how she has built a community of people who support one another. Her Run With Life community is made up of people of all ages, backgrounds and abilities. Some of us are super fit. Some of us are working to be super fit. Some of us are part of her running crew and some of us are not. However, the one thing that we all have in common is that we support each other, no matter what our goals are.

I’m pretty luck really, to be part of such a group. So this week, I thought I would introduce you to one of the people in my support group, who inspires me each day to make the right choices in order to reach my goals.

Please meet, Mel Cook.

Why did you become a personal trainer?

Do you know what, I actually never wanted to be a personal trainer. I used to be so shy, it scared me to think I had to talk to and tell people what to do as a trainer.

I went to Uni and did health sciences. In my degree I had the option of following exercise science but I decided to follow health promotion and nutrition. When I finished my degree, I got a desk job in health promotion and that’s when I started running. In my desk job, I always seemed to try and find more ways of challenging myself. Then I came up with the idea that I wanted to educate people on how to start running or start exercising. With my nutrition background, I thought it would be good to put the two together and form my own business.

So off I went, I left a secure, great paying job to take a risk, to challenge myself to see what I could do with my own health and fitness business and for other people

What do you love most about your job?

My clients’ gratitude 🙂

How do you get the best out of your clients?

I develop a great trusting relationship with my clients and get them to be 100% honest and truthful with me. No more ignoring the actual underlying factors that are causing the problems. And of course follow the structure of MP.

What do you think your clients value most about you?

I am not too sure. I have never asked them the question. But if I were my client I would value that I offer them the best program possible, which is Metabolic Precision. Without this program many people fail. On top of this, I would also value how much time and energy I put into each of them. Little do they know how much I think about them and do for them outside of when I actually see or talk to them.

What differentiates you from every other personal trainer out there?

Well, I don’t think there is another trainer with the name Mel Cook who combines the Metabolic Precision system with their running clients at the level 4 level. There are only 30 of us worldwide who have completed level 4, and now another 25 who are completing it this year, so I believe I am in a unique situation. I am not the best trainer out there, and I definitely do not know everything, but I am changing the way people who run view training and nutrition. I am changing the way a lot of people view their training, nutrition and health. I also invest a lot of my time and money into bettering myself so I can deliver the best possible program.

Why is running such a key part of your life?

I am going to keep this answer simple. Having something that you can train for and keep getting better at pushes you to places you will have never been before.

When you have a skill that you can keep training for and achieve goals with, the person you become is amazing and the experiences along the way teach you so much that nothing else can teach you about yourself.

What motivates you?

Life motivates me. Seeing people who have missed or wasted opportunities, or didn’t even realise they had the chance makes me so mad/sad/frustrated. Making the best life for yourself is so important.

What are your goals this year?

Last year my fitness goals were on hold whilst my body decided to work as optimally as I wanted it too, so at the moment I just want to get back into training hard.

I do have goals for later this year. I want to sprint. I want to be an athlete — I have the discipline and motivation to push myself beyond limits and I think I have so much in my tank to give. It will take me a while but I aim to be able to sprint competitively by November this year. If not, then early next year, and then I would like to see what I can accomplish by the time I am 30.

I would also love a sub 40min 10km this year. That would be amazing 🙂

What accomplishments are you most proud of (you can have more than one)

Setting up Run With Life and also running my fastest 10km (40mins 22) and my first marathon (3 hours and 29mins).

In order for someone to accomplish their goals (whether it be fitness or something else), what qualities do they need?

The most important quality is to be willing and able to learn.

The person has to want to be resilient and be able to handle all the ‘nos’, downs and disappointments because that is when we learn, when we get stronger and what helps us achieve our goals.

What advice do you have for someone wanting to make a change in their life?

Mel Cook - a super supportive and knowledgeable trainer

Mel Cook – a super supportive and knowledgeable trainer

Do it now because life is way too short and when you have made the change you will regret not starting earlier.

When you are healthy, feel fit and strong, I can tell you, life doesn’t get any better than this!  And…….please do not give me an excuse 🙂

So if you are looking to make positive changes to your health and fitness, but don’t know where to start, contact Mel at Run With Life. Not only will you have access to a highly educated and dedicated trainer, but you will become part of a group that provides great support, no matter what your goals may be.

And that my friends, is something that money just can’t buy.

cropped-twitterpic.jpgNerissa Bentley is a Melbourne-based freelance writer at Write to the Point Communications. This blog is just one of the things she writes in her spare time.

 She also specialises in writing for the health and well-being market. As well as writing thoroughly researched articles, she can provide assistance with press releases, copywriting, editing, proofreading and communication strategies.

So if you would like her to help you, contact her at writetothepoint@hotmail.com

 

Are you a dream-weaver, or a dream-stealer?

Many of us have dreams, goals, things we want to accomplish. Unfortunately for most people, their dreams only ever remain that — a dream or a wish.make your dreams come true

Why is that?

Imagine what our world would be like if we all went about achieving what we were truly capable of. Seriously… take and minute and think of all the unlocked potential in the world (or at least in your immediate circle).

I’m sure you have had at some point, some goals you wanted to achieve. I’d also hazard a guess that many of these are unfulfilled.

If we really want to achieve something, then why don’t we just get on with it?

I believe it is because we’re afraid of how others will react.

After all, what do most of us do to people who succeed? We cut them down!

What could they possibly be doing that’s legal, to be earning that much money?
Who wants to be that obsessed with exercise and eating for the rest of their lives?
Who do they think they are, boasting about their new house?
They must have stood on a lot of people’s toes to get that promotion.

So we are left feeling scared of being different to the pack. After all, we don’t want people to talk about us like that, do we?

What if things were different? What if we surrounded ourselves with people who cheered us on instead of stole our dreams

Even better — what if we supported others in their dreams and goals, instead of pulling them down?

Something I have learnt over the past few months is the value of building people up. It has a surprising knock-on effect.

Since January this year, I have been part of an online group who all share similar goals — we want to be fitter, stronger, faster and healthier. Some of us just want to lose excess weight and to build muscle; others are chasing their goal of competing on stage. There is one inspirational woman, who at 57 years of age, has set her goal at competing and winning a medal at a Masters Powerlifting competition!

We are all at different stages of our journey and all have different hurdles to overcome. However, the amazing thing is, we celebrate each other’s successes. We encourage each other when the task seems too difficult, and we ask for (and give) advice when needed. I am continually amazed at the genuine enthusiasm, encouragement, care (and dare I say it), love that exudes from this group.

The most amazing part about it, is that most of us have never even met each other!

What this group has shown me is that by building others up, we actually build ourselves up. For every person who you look up to as an inspiration, there will be someone looking up to YOU for inspiration.

Imagine that! Someone finding YOU inspirational.

Just because you haven’t reached your goal yet, doesn’t mean you can’t inspire others.

The mere act of persistence, patience and hard-work, day after day, can inspire others.

The act of setting goals and doing what is required, even when you don’t feel like it can inspire others.

Having the courage to go after something, when the odds are against you, can inspire others.

Most importantly, being full of encouragement, praise and genuine happiness for someone achieving their goals can be inspiring. Unfortunately, many of us don’t realise this.

Not all achievements come easy. Some take years and years of hard-work, commitment and dedication. Certainly, amongst our online group there has been a lot of blood, sweat and tears (literally)!

I can personally testify that changing my body composition (e.g. the amount of fat and muscle I have), changing my eating habits, and training regularly involves hard work and sacrifice. There have been times when I have doubted myself, doubted the process and wondered if it is all worth it. Some days, it just seemed all too hard.

However, by being a dream-weaver myself — encouraging others, celebrating their successes, using their achievements as motivation for my journey — rather than being jealous of them, has helped me achieve success in a way that I never thought possible. It has helped me stay focussed on my goals. It has also helped me not to worry so much about what others may think.

Most importantly, it has led to other people supporting me in my dreams and goals. People who understand what I am trying to achieve, and the hard work required to get there. And that is where the power is.

As a group, we support each other, laugh with each other, encourage and praise each other. As a group, we achieve so much more than we would individually. As a group, we are powerful. And as a group, we are realising our unlocked potential.

While I still have a long list of goals I want to achieve, I am slowly ticking them off.

The lesson learned is this: you won’t find people to support your dreams, if you are busy stealing the dreams of others.

Supporting and encouraging others in their dreams, whatever they may be, opens your mind to more possibilities, more opportunities and more creative ways to make your dreams come true. It also opens your heart a little, so others can be there for you.

So what are you?

A dream-weaver, or a dream-stealer?

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